I know the way you can get
When you have not had a drink of Love
In exploring how this Full Moon in Pisces (floating in August 26th at 5:56 am MST) is asking us to love, we could talk about the Mystic, the Healer, the Visionary, or the Artist–all have a lot to say.
But what my heart is asking me to write about (and maybe one day I’ll write a book about) is the sweetness we’re being offered by healing the program of Unrequited Love.
This Full Moon search far, wide and deep (if you’re willing) for those places and spaces where you’re not giving or receiving love because Full Moons are a time for completing, a time for releasing and this may be your time to complete and release the story of Unrequited Love once and for all.
The Pisces in me has a tale to tell to the Pisces in you (we hold all the zodiacal archetypes no matter what our birth chart reveals).
Specifically, I’m talking about the archetypal story of Unrequited Love.
You know this story—it’s a heartbreaker. We’ve seen it played out a million different ways. You’ve likely experienced it yourself multiple times.
You fall in love with someone who just can’t love you back or you can’t love them.
There are many reasons. You give; they take. They adore you; you run. You live here; she lives there. He’s cross-addicted; she has intimacy issues.
The rock-bottom line: You feel you’re a fool for love, consumed with the emotional and physical absence of it in your life, convinced you’ve found and lost the “One” or convinced yourself altogether that this lifetime Big Love is not destined for you.
Some will activate the programs of the Escapist or Addict (that Pisces knows so well), turning to ANYTHING to numb the pain—alcohol, food, sex, drugs, shopping, the Internet—ANYTHING, so you do not have to touch any of those torturous feelings that have more to do with core wounds around rejection, abandonment, guilt, shame, loss, betrayal, and separation than they do around the one who got away or never showed up at all.
Some will learn to channel the pain, activating the Troubadour who searches for solace, healing and even greater love in finding a relationship with herSelf, himSelf through a Higher Power, the Divine of their understanding. Through the archetypal story of Unrequited Love, the hands, heart and mind of the Troubadour via the Artist have channelled for the world great masterpieces by being struck then healed from the bittersweet journey of Unrequited Love.
Some will forgo the sweetness of healing of this old story and just become bitter.
I know the way you can get
When you have not had a drink of Love:
Your face hardens,
Your sweet muscles cramp.
Children become concerned
About a strange look that appears in your eyes
Which even begins to worry your own mirror
Squirrels and birds sense your sadness
And call an important conference in a tall tree.
They decide which secret code to chant
To help your mind and soul.
Even angels fear that brand of madness
That arrays itself against the world
And throws sharp stones and spears into
And into one’s self.
Oh I know the way you can get
If you have not been drinking Love.
You might rip apart
Every sentence your friends and teachers say,
Looking for hidden clauses.
You might weigh every word on a scale
Like a dead fish.
You might pull out a ruler to measure
From every angle in your darkness
The beautiful dimensions of a heart you once
I know the way you can get
If you have not had a drink from Love’s
The potential to drown in the stories we tell about Unrequited Love can become quite destructive if we’re not willing to lay down the Victim and Martyr programs associated with the shadow of Pisces (I always get hurt, I’m damaged, I always pick the wrong person, no one loves me, no one ever stays), suss out the learning and take responsibility for how we’ve shut the front door on the Healer in us who’s meant to transmute these wounds.
What if you grew uncomfortable with your uncomfortable feelings and decided to lay your stories out on the altar of Kind Truth and Unconditional Love to see how Unrequited Love has played out in your life?
If you want to engage in the archetype of Sacrifice, do sacrifice the sorrows and the secrets, the beliefs and behaviours that do not align to a more loving vision or a higher degree of self-worth in the new Love Story you wish to tell.
What if you turned on a self-illuminating light to look for the learning your soul received, where you might’ve been responsible in how you’ve carried on its destructive legacy long after a particular relationship ended and start to understand that any Great Love Story worth telling starts with the quality of love you give to yourself?
Your new story has a new vibration.
If you’re feeling and seeing the same old, same old in your life, know that the energy of the beliefs you have and the hurts you carry may be the same old, same old. The remedy: a steady stream of self-compassion and courageous acts of love.
What you desire will call you to rise up to greet it.
The quicker you accelerate your personal awakening and higher vibration, the quicker your new Love Story will unfold.
And you may not recognize the characters and the twists in the plot as you go to new spaces and places inside and out, but a Pisces resplendent in True Love has a trust in a Higher Plan and knows that the story will be richer and the characters far more delightful than ever imagined.
Relationships are designed to be major agents of change in our soul’s evolution, but so often we don’t open ourselves up to the wonder that relationships can be—especially if we’ve been deeply hurt.
If you’ve broken the spell of Unrequited Love, this Pisces Full Moon may activate in you this desire to alleviate the suffering of others, for you will have much wisdom to share and gifts to bestow in the opportunities, healing, grace, and forgiveness you’ve received.
In all this dedication and devotion to reaching blissful transcendent states of Love, Pisces activates the Lover, the Dreamer and the Mystic within so we can help others see that they are Lovers, Dreamers and Mystics too.
May this Full Moon mark a new relationship to the brilliant new Love Story where the love you’re generously giving is abundantly and continually returned.
Celebrating my retirement
of the Unrequited Lover (since 2015)
& ecstatic to be celebrating yours…
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