New Moon in Libra: The Secret to Happily Ever After

New Moon in Libra, September 28 at 11:26 am Pacific Time / 2:26 pm Eastern
To You Walking the Mastery Path of Love:

The real secret to everlasting love is knowing that relationships are never going to make you happy.

While the Libra in me barely bats an eye as I flatly deny such an absurd claim, the Seeker of True Love hestitantly asks for clarification: 

How so?

In a world in which our inner creates our outer, we attract soulmates of a wide variety—those divine, precious beings who agreed to come in and play important roles in this lifetime, standing and serving as mirrors to show us our great capacity to love and how well we’re loving ourselves. 

But relationships can also reflect the parts of ourselves we’ve lost or given away, the places that still hurt or scare us as well as the walls we’ve built that have skewed our view of the sacred flame of love that dwells brightly within. 

Maybe you’ve been hurt so deeply or feel you betrayed yourself so badly in the choices you’ve made in love that you’ve unconsciously become anorexic, allergic, even averse to love based on intimacy and vulnerability, respect and reciprocity, compassion and kindness.

Through thousands of hours of client readings and coaching sessions around matters of the heart, I’ve come to see just how skilled we are in punishing ourselves and others by living in cages of our own making that keep us from experiencing the cathartic power of True Love. 

The tragic irony is that not only do we hold the keys that’ll open the door to our liberation, the door has been open all along.

So why don’t we see the open door?

Hurt as children, we grow up to be adults who hand over to others all the dysfunctional dynamics and unhealed projections of our pain and suffering, disappointments and betrayals, judgements and expectations.

At some point, exhausted by the types of relationships we’ve been attracting, many of us will take a divine pause and realize the patterns in our relationships and the futility of expecting others to heal us, to complete us, to make us whole, to write our happily ever after.

Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Mastery of Love, writes, “If you take your happiness and put it in someone’s hands, sooner or later, [he] is going to break it. If you give your happiness to someone else, she can always take it away.”

This New Moon in Libra is providing us an opening to improve upon how we love ourselves and one another. 

So we can stop blaming and giving our power away.
So we can refrain from placing the weight of our hurts, disappointments and expectations on one person or one relationship.
So we can stop being the person who is carrying the weight of others’ hurts, disappointments and expectations. 

So you can ask some courageous questions instead and deeply listen for the answers.

Do you feel as if you’re often the victim, mostly blameless in the relationship dynamics of which you’re a part ? 
The Victim cries out, “Why me?” whereas the Witness inquires, “Yes, why me?” 
What relationships could use some of your loving attention right now?
Who triggers you? If triggers are projections of our own emotional and mental material, what are you being shown about where you’re ready to heal, to grow in loving awareness? 

“Queen of Love, Goddess of Wisdom, Master of Intimacy, can you do this?” Libra asks, reminding us to accept nothing less than mastery in True Love by searching for the golden threads of all our relationship stories that will weave a tapestry of Unconditional Love.

If only we could remember each day, each moment how loved we really are–how BIG we are when we tap into our mastery as souls. 

Libra realizes on this journey of love, relationships will stir up thoughts and feelings we’ve denied or we’ve been conditioned to accept.

Libra’s intent in her mastery teachings is for us to take 100% responsibility for all of the various types of relationships we’ve co-created.

No matter how we categorize a relationship (lover, sister, child, friend, colleague, boss), each one can become an opportunity for soul growth, assisting us in understanding ourselves more deeply.

However, an ego that feeds on drama, over-simplification, confirmation bias, negativity and victimhood can conjure all sorts of thoughts and spin all types of tales that have nothing to do with love.

The soul offers a different perspective when we’re willing to see the root of the projection someone else is carrying for us and the ones we’ve cast on others:

So if I judge you, really I’m judging myself. 
I understand if I criticize you, I’m criticizing some part of myself.
If I don’t trust you. I don’t trust myself.
I’m annoyed by you. I’m annoyed at myself. 
You’re ignoring me. I’m ignoring a part of myself.
You betrayed me. I’ve betrayed a part of myself.  
I do not respect you. I don’t respect myself. 
I will never forgive you. I can’t forgive myself. 
You do not love me. I don’t love some part of myself.

And on the story goes.                          


Be willing to release even one old story, one way you remain the victim in your relationships or one unloving belief you still cling to, so you can tell a new tale of enlightenment and empowerment. 

Whisper the words, “Show me” as you call on the Libra Scales of Balance, your Higher Self, an Ascended Master or a Higher Power of your choosing to help you 
see both the wound and the gift of your relationship hurts. Become aware of the projection, so you can take steps to heal it.                                                                       

Write intentions around the relationships you’re currently in, the ones ready for the upgrade in Love (**I’ve been doing this every day since the New Moon in Virgo and the results have been immediate and lovely) and the new ones that you’re calling in.

 The quality of any relationship is based on the quality of the relationship you have with yourself. Repeat: I am the love I’m seeking.  I AM safe to love and be loved in return.

Don’t take anything your loved ones are doing or saying personally. They are wading through their own projections. When you can, step back as the Witness, questioning what you are being shown through someone else’s triggering/triggered behaviour.  A sense of relief followed by empowerment comes when you understand your part and extract the learning and the loving. 

And breathe in these beautiful words. Commit them to memory. Live by them if you can:

We, unaccustomed to courage,
exiles from delight,
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life.

Love arrives
and in its train come ecstasies
old memories of pleasure
ancient histories of pain.
Yet if we are bold,
love strikes away the chains of fear
from our souls.

We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love’s light
we dare be brave.
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free
~Maya Angelou

And that is the real secret of happily ever after. 
Love costs all we are and will ever be

 Remain courageous in dreaming your dreams of love,
for as long as your heart beats, the dream is still alive. 

Love Jenn

P.S. Cast your New Moon in Libra Tarot Spread and leave a comment below about the superpower quality (card #4) that will assist you in tapping into Libra’s own superpower–seeing love everywhere. xxoo

P.P.S. Thank you so much for your candid, heartfelt messages about the Full Moon in Pisces article–the Addict and the Mystic were two archetypes that struck a chord of (sometime uncomfortable) truth for so many people. Your courage to look at whatever stands in the way of your Love inspires me every day.

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Jenn Kosh

Jenn Kosh is a Writer, Astrologer, and Intuitive Life Coach who is located in Western Canada. She offers more than 20 years of acquiring the tools, the insights and the resources that allow you to feel safe and provide you with the knowing, the techniques and the step-by-step plan to create a life you love.

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Jenn Kosh

Jenn Kosh is a Writer, Astrologer, and Intuitive Life Coach who is located in Western Canada. She offers more than 20 years of acquiring the tools, the insights and the resources that allow you to feel safe and provide you with the knowing, the techniques and the step-by-step plan to create a life you love.

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16 thoughts on “New Moon in Libra: The Secret to Happily Ever After”

  1. This was the best piece of writing, and so accurate, and exactly what I needed to hear on this journey of healing and self-love.
    Thank you Jenn. I look forward to your writings each month. You’re a true gift.

    1. Awww, thank you, Heather. Your words means so much. Sending you so many blessings on your journey of healing and self-love–may you find yourself rich in miracles in love.

  2. Jenn! Thank you for this beautiful New Moon article. It is so wise and reflective. I love the messages, support and assistance in our journey that you give to all us seekers! I will pull cards, deeply question my love intentions and raise my consciousness for myself and loved ones!
    Love you Jenn! xo

    1. Thank you!! I can FEEL your positive energy through your post. I love that. Please let us know what your superpower love quality is!! I bet it’s passion for life, learning and love–or something along those lines. xo

  3. I believe, the “Why Me?” question is the stumbling block to awareness of the full circle of love. We do have to acknowledge a depth that is beyond victimhood and a maturing of self-respect and respect for other’s personal journeys. I believe once we acknowledge this, we begin to take part in truly loving ourselves and others. THANKS FOR BRINGING THIS TO LIGHT, JENN, as each of us are on the journey of life, as we personally experience it, that is all about continued growth in relationship and love. Other than that, we remain stuck in the muck!
    Love you

  4. Such a rich post! The poem at the end by Maya Angelou keeps pulling me back to your beautiful call to ‘surrender to love’.

    While reading this piece I began to draw new connections/insights in relationships that I had somehow been ‘blind’ to in the past. Amazing to see the patterns reflected in the whole, and name the work I need to do. I hope to delve into tarot cards and hope to share more once I have a deck.

    With love and gratitude for your guidance,

    1. Thank you, Mridula. Maya Angelous is a Queen. That poem struck me too–and shaped the whole love note. How amazing that you received new connections and insights into relationships and then to identify the work you need to do. It’s incredible how much we are seeing when our eyes are open to see.

      Tarot has been such a gift this year and such a complement to the astrology. Let me know when you have your deck. xo

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