New Moon in Libra, September 28 at 11:26 am Pacific Time / 2:26 pm Eastern
To You Walking the Mastery Path of Love:
The real secret to everlasting love is knowing that relationships are never going to make you happy.
While the Libra in me barely bats an eye as I flatly deny such an absurd claim, the Seeker of True Love hestitantly asks for clarification:
In a world in which our inner creates our outer, we attract soulmates of a wide variety—those divine, precious beings who agreed to come in and play important roles in this lifetime, standing and serving as mirrors to show us our great capacity to love and how well we’re loving ourselves.
But relationships can also reflect the parts of ourselves we’ve lost or given away, the places that still hurt or scare us as well as the walls we’ve built that have skewed our view of the sacred flame of love that dwells brightly within.
Maybe you’ve been hurt so deeply or feel you betrayed yourself so badly in the choices you’ve made in love that you’ve unconsciously become anorexic, allergic, even averse to love based on intimacy and vulnerability, respect and reciprocity, compassion and kindness.
Through thousands of hours of client readings and coaching sessions around matters of the heart, I’ve come to see just how skilled we are in punishing ourselves and others by living in cages of our own making that keep us from experiencing the cathartic power of True Love.
The tragic irony is that not only do we hold the keys that’ll open the door to our liberation, the door has been open all along.
So why don’t we see the open door?
Hurt as children, we grow up to be adults who hand over to others all the dysfunctional dynamics and unhealed projections of our pain and suffering, disappointments and betrayals, judgements and expectations.
At some point, exhausted by the types of relationships we’ve been attracting, many of us will take a divine pause and realize the patterns in our relationships and the futility of expecting others to heal us, to complete us, to make us whole, to write our happily ever after.
Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Mastery of Love, writes, “If you take your happiness and put it in someone’s hands, sooner or later, [he] is going to break it. If you give your happiness to someone else, she can always take it away.”
This New Moon in Libra is providing us an opening to improve upon how we love ourselves and one another.
So we can stop blaming and giving our power away.
So we can refrain from placing the weight of our hurts, disappointments and expectations on one person or one relationship.
So we can stop being the person who is carrying the weight of others’ hurts, disappointments and expectations.
So you can ask some courageous questions instead and deeply listen for the answers.
Do you feel as if you’re often the victim, mostly blameless in the relationship dynamics of which you’re a part ?
The Victim cries out, “Why me?” whereas the Witness inquires, “Yes, why me?”
What relationships could use some of your loving attention right now?
Who triggers you? If triggers are projections of our own emotional and mental material, what are you being shown about where you’re ready to heal, to grow in loving awareness?
“Queen of Love, Goddess of Wisdom, Master of Intimacy, can you do this?” Libra asks, reminding us to accept nothing less than mastery in True Love by searching for the golden threads of all our relationship stories that will weave a tapestry of Unconditional Love.
If only we could remember each day, each moment how loved we really are–how BIG we are when we tap into our mastery as souls.
Libra realizes on this journey of love, relationships will stir up thoughts and feelings we’ve denied or we’ve been conditioned to accept.
Libra’s intent in her mastery teachings is for us to take 100% responsibility for all of the various types of relationships we’ve co-created.
No matter how we categorize a relationship (lover, sister, child, friend, colleague, boss), each one can become an opportunity for soul growth, assisting us in understanding ourselves more deeply.
However, an ego that feeds on drama, over-simplification, confirmation bias, negativity and victimhood can conjure all sorts of thoughts and spin all types of tales that have nothing to do with love.
The soul offers a different perspective when we’re willing to see the root of the projection someone else is carrying for us and the ones we’ve cast on others:
So if I judge you, really I’m judging myself.
I understand if I criticize you, I’m criticizing some part of myself.
If I don’t trust you. I don’t trust myself.
I’m annoyed by you. I’m annoyed at myself.
You’re ignoring me. I’m ignoring a part of myself.
You betrayed me. I’ve betrayed a part of myself.
I do not respect you. I don’t respect myself.
I will never forgive you. I can’t forgive myself.
You do not love me. I don’t love some part of myself.
And on the story goes.
THIS NEW MOON:
Be willing to release even one old story, one way you remain the victim in your relationships or one unloving belief you still cling to, so you can tell a new tale of enlightenment and empowerment.
Whisper the words, “Show me” as you call on the Libra Scales of Balance, your Higher Self, an Ascended Master or a Higher Power of your choosing to help you see both the wound and the gift of your relationship hurts. Become aware of the projection, so you can take steps to heal it.
Write intentions around the relationships you’re currently in, the ones ready for the upgrade in Love (**I’ve been doing this every day since the New Moon in Virgo and the results have been immediate and lovely) and the new ones that you’re calling in.
The quality of any relationship is based on the quality of the relationship you have with yourself. Repeat: I am the love I’m seeking. I AM safe to love and be loved in return.
Don’t take anything your loved ones are doing or saying personally. They are wading through their own projections. When you can, step back as the Witness, questioning what you are being shown through someone else’s triggering/triggered behaviour. A sense of relief followed by empowerment comes when you understand your part and extract the learning and the loving.
And breathe in these beautiful words. Commit them to memory. Live by them if you can:
We, unaccustomed to courage,
exiles from delight,
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life.
and in its train come ecstasies
old memories of pleasure
ancient histories of pain.
Yet if we are bold,
love strikes away the chains of fear
from our souls.
We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love’s light
we dare be brave.
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free.
And that is the real secret of happily ever after.
Love costs all we are and will ever be.
Remain courageous in dreaming your dreams of love,
for as long as your heart beats, the dream is still alive.
P.S. Cast your New Moon in Libra Tarot Spread and leave a comment below about the superpower quality (card #4) that will assist you in tapping into Libra’s own superpower–seeing love everywhere. xxoo
P.P.S. Thank you so much for your candid, heartfelt messages about the Full Moon in Pisces article–the Addict and the Mystic were two archetypes that struck a chord of (sometime uncomfortable) truth for so many people. Your courage to look at whatever stands in the way of your Love inspires me every day.